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16 // OCTOBER 2017 USAHOCKEYMAGAZINE.COM ILLUSTRATION BY Darren Gygi W H E N W E F I R S T s t a r t e d o u t as hockey parents, a coach told us, "Nothing about hockey is convenient." Honestly, becoming a hockey parent for the first time, is like the first time you purchase a smart- phone. There's a lot of trial and error, and at times, the whole thing made you question if it was all real- ly worth it. B u t j u s t l i k e t h a t i P h o n e o r Android, you eventually come to the conclusion that you can't imag- ine life before hockey parenting. We were fortunate to get a lot of help along the way, so here's sage advice from veteran hockey parents: "Don't lose focus on what matters most to your family and your child's development as a hockey player and person. Focus on effort given and encourage them to give their best. That character trait will transcend the game and pay a lifetime of div- idends." –JASON HUBBARD, Skaneateles, N.Y. " When they run across that one parent who is acting like his/ her kid's agent, they need to understand that they may be the loudest, but they are not the majority." – 'ON THE JOB MOM' hockey blogger Emily Oberst. "Keep an emergency kit in the car with laces, mouthpieces, extra helmet parts." – MELISSA CALFO HEBERT, Elm City, N.C. "Use the 24-hour period before going to the coach with concerns/ complaints." – CHRIS HIGH, Pittsburgh "Remember the young refs are somebody's kid, brother, friend and teammate. They will make mistakes." – PETER BELLENDIR, Fond du Lac, Wis. "Since you're going to live in the car, buy the vehicle you can be com- fortable traveling in. It's always fun to have room for friends and travel together. Splitting the cost for travel is good, too." – PAM MUNSON, Baldwinsville, N.Y. "I'm amazed at how supportive kids and parents can be. Encourage that environment. It's so much better for everyone." – KARI HAWKINS WALOCK, Faribault, Minn. "Use your travel time to and from games and practice to talk with your kids and really get to know them better. Don't let them just plug in the head phones right away." – SHARON JOHNSON MALONE, Orangeville, Ill. "Never presume that you know your child's hockey sense better than their coach. Let hockey be an expo- sure to the real world and build their work ethic." –BRIGITTE HOFFMAN, Anaheim, Calif. "Always tell them you're proud of them, no matter what. Please remem- ber, they're kids, not NHL prospects." – NICOLE MOSKAL-BURGIO, Buffalo "Just have fun and enjoy it while it lasts because it ends too fast." – SHANNON DANKERT, Cortland, N.Y. Now that you have some cursory instructions to hockey parenting, you can look forward to this new adven- ture. As a wise hockey dad once told me, it's more about where you are going than where you have been. P COACH OF THE MONTH THE HOCKEY MOM By Christie Casciano Burns JEFF ANDERSON Age: 44 Morgantown, W.Va. Hockey wasn't all that popular when Jeff Anderson's father, who worked for the parks and rec- reation department, launched a cam- paign to build a rink in Morgantown. But thanks to the efforts of dedicated coaches like Jeff, the game con- tinues to grow in the heart of West Virginia. Over the course of his 20 years in the game, Jeff has coached at just about every age level, from Learn to Skate sessions to high school teams to col- lege club programs. An IT consultant by day, Jeff spends most nights at the Morgantown Ice Arena coaching his son Jay's 14 & Under team and his daughter Robin's 12 & Under squad. And Jeff shows no sign of slowing down, espe- cially when he sees that his own kids enjoy the sport as much as he does. "For me, it's all about the kids," Jeff said. "Just seeing the enjoy- ment they have and seeing them achieve something they didn't think they could, that makes it all worth it." BEH I N D T HE G L A SS Take It From Veteran Hockey Parents "Just have fun and enjoy it while it lasts because it ends too fast."

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