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line change ADVICE FOR PARENTS, REFS AND COACHES 08 PHOTOS COURTESY OF USA Hockey Magazine Archive ILLUSTRATION BY Mike Curti T h e G r e e k p l a y w r i g h t Sophocles walked the Earth some 2,500 years ago, so it's a good bet he wasn't a hockey dad. Even though he may never have spent the weekend huddled under a blanket in a frigid rink, the word- smith was onto something when he noted, "The keenest sorrow is to recognize ourselves as the sole cause of all our adversities." As hockey parents, we know exactly what those "adversities" are — vilifying the refs, loudly lament- ing your child's ice time and using language more colorful than a Matisse canvas. Luckily, each new season affords us the opportunity to make amends. So let's take that first step and join others in pledging to be a better hockey parent this season, by promising to do the following: • Be careful with "constructive criticism" after a game. Trust that my child tried hard and did the best he/she could. – Jessica and Steve Kennedy, Concord, Mass. • Savor every moment and try not to cry when my son plays his last year of hockey. – Cindy Weller McHarris, Sauquoit, N.Y. • Embrace my daughter's goalie eccentricities as she lives up to the reputation that those who play the position are just a little left of center. – Sharon Enck, Phoenix • Bring more snacks, take more pictures, cheer louder and smile more. – Melissa Alcott, Rochester, N.Y. • Not to jump every time my son takes a hit in his first season as a Bantam. – Stacy Schavnis Doherty, Honey Brook, Pa. • Keep my mouth shut. – Charlie Hamilton, Washington, D.C. • Keep mama bear hidden deep down when people are yelling at my son, the ref. – Monica Hudak Headley, Mead, Wash. • Bring more Snickers bars for those out-of-control parents. – Robin Johnson Virgilio, Lincolnwood, Ill. • Set reasonable goals for my players and celebrate like crazy when they achieve them. – Mike Braciszewski, Syracuse, N.Y. • Don't beat myself up when I can't go to my daughter's tournament in Ottawa because my son's tournament is in Connecticut. – Tamatha Picolla, New Hartford, N.Y. • Stand back a little more and let my son grow into the great player I know he has the potential to be. – Heather Delaney Doran, Fulton, N.Y. • Don't let other people's ignorance bother me, or my son's play. – Laura Bell, Smithtown, N.Y. • Ask my son to dry his own equipment. – Amy Moon, Syracuse, N.Y. • Do more team building activities. – Alison Spears, Ogdensburg, N.Y. • Promote a positive learning environment, even when there are disappointments. – Julie Varney, Baldwinsville, N.Y. • Be my child's biggest cheerleader, not his biggest critic. – Tammy Myers, Auburn, N.Y. • Enjoy my son's last year at home before hockey takes him away. – Pam Munson, Baldwinsville, N.Y. And as for me, I promise to always remember the cardinal kids' sports rule: "Keep it fun." After all, anything less would a tragedy of Greek proportions. Syracuse, N.,Y. hockey mom Christie Casciano Burns is the author of The Puck Hog & Haunted Hockey in Lake Placid, now available on SEPTEMBER. 2015 USAHOCKEYMAGAZINE.COM ANSWER: The referee should tell the player to move the puck, as long as he's not being checked. If, after three seconds, no attempt has been made to move the puck, the referee shall stop play and assess a minor penalty for delaying the game. YOU MAKE THE CALL A player is playing the puck along the boards with his skates or stick, but not advancing the puck in an attempt to obtain a stoppage of play. What should the referee do? (Hint: Need help making the right call? Visit Hockey has always been a part of Mike McIntosh's life. He grew up playing the game, began coaching shortly after college, took a break for the birth of his son, but has returned with a vengence. In addition to serving as the American Development Model coordinator for the state of Montana, Mike also coaches Peewee, Bantam and high school teams in the Big Sky State. Along with being the CEP instructor, Mike was recently elected as vice presi- dent of the Montana Amateur Hockey Association. "Giving kids the opportu- nity to experience the great things that hockey can offer is what I love most about volun- teering," he said. Mike's favorite part of being involved has to be coaching, specifically getting kids hooked on the game. "By coaching and being involved, I view it as a lifelong sport," he said. "If kids can get into the program, enjoy it and have fun with it, then it can become a sport they're going to spend even more time playing as an adult than they ever did as a kid." Mike McIntosh Great Falls, Mont. VOLUNTEER OF THE MONTH A Parent's Pledge To Make This Season Special HOCKEY MOM COLUMN

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