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October 2013

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line change advice for parents, refs and coaches What To Expect From Your Expectations By Christie Casciano Burns "You play … to win the game! Hello!" Those are the words of Herm Edwards, former NFL player and head coach, who may be best remembered for his postgame summation on the reason one participates in a particular sport. Coach Edward's philosophy may work for hulking millionaires who play on national TV, but for the younger generation who emulate them, it's important to temper those expectations. Sports can't simply be seen as a tool for material gain. When we recently delivered our son to Bentley University in Boston sans hockey bag, some friends and family were shocked. "What? He's not playing hockey in college? After all these years?" That kind of reaction doesn't surprise Plymouth, Mich., hockey mom Laurie Golden, author of "The Trophy Mom" blog, who has seen parents make the mistake of concentrating all their efforts on one sport thinking it will pay off with a scholarship. "My husband and I joke that if people took all the money they spent on camps, special training and extra coaching and invested it, they'd have no problem paying for college," Golden says. While playing hockey in college 10 OCtober. 2013 Parents not only need to create realistic expectations for their children, they also need to set them for themselves. was never on our son's radar, or ours, early on in his life it was clear that hockey was his passion. Kellie Merrill from Wasilla, Alaska saw that same kind of natural passion in her Peewee-aged daughter. "She loves hockey 24/7 as much as my husband and I do." But her son? Not so much. The lack of enthusiasm led to a heart to heart before his Bantam year, which resulted in a switch from the rink to the pool. "As a parent I am passionate about watching my children enjoy what they are doing instead of seeing a lackluster performance because they think that is what I expect them to be doing," says Merrill. Parents not only need to create realistic expectations for their children, they also need to set them for themselves. "It's really easy to lose your perspective," says Golden, whose oldest son is a senior baseball player for Eastern Michigan University. Another plays ACHA hockey for Oakland University, and a daughter plays for the 19U Michigan Icebreakers. "You have to make a conscious decision to stay focused on what's best for your child and your family. Now that my kids are older, each of them has thanked us for being sane, level-headed sports parents. The kids really are watching." Playing hockey was great for our son, who gained confidence, friends,and leadership skills. So in the end, I guess Coach Edwards was right – you do play to win the game. Just not the one on the ice, but the game of life. USAHOCKEYMAGAZINE.COM It's In the Bag: A Six Pack Of Items To Include In Your Hockey Bag By Jason Schmock As a hockey player or parent, we all live out of our hockey bags. Whether they are simple over-the-shoulder canvas bags or the fancy kind with wheels, we need a good and well-stocked hockey bag. While its obvious what gear needs to be in there, here are a few non-essential essentials that every bag should have. 6. Extra Practice Jersey: Of all the things that people seem to forget, a practice jersey is the most common. Come to the rescue of another player and karma will pay you back at some point during the season. 5. Screw drivers: Flathead and Phillips screwdrivers are lifesavers when you need a helmet adjusted in a hurry. Never assume that a rink operator will be close by or have one handy. A helmet that doesn't fit right isn't comfortable, and it isn't safe. 4. A Change of Underwear: I'm speaking from experience here. Things happen. It's best to be prepared for whatever life throws your way. 3. Extra Mouth Piece: Death, taxes and lost mouthpieces are sure things in life. Plus they are the cheapest, but one of the most important pieces of protection a player has. 2. Tape, Tape, Tape: So many uses, so many colors, so why wouldn't it be in your bag? Don't leave home without it. 1. Extra Laces: Whenever you are late, early, in a big game, starting for the first time, in a final, trying to improve, just starting out or a veteran...YOUR LACES WILL BREAK. Have a back up pair and avoid being the victim of the snap. Jason Schmock is a hockey dad in Tomah, Wis. Volunteer of the month Tony Montagna Southampton, Pa. Tony Montagna has been a cornerstone of youth hockey at the local, state and national level for more than 30 years. For all his hard work and Photos courtesy of sacrifice, the Atlantic District registrar was recently inducted into the Atlantic Amateur Hockey Association Hall of Fame. The AAHA Hall of Fame award is presented annually to an individual who has made an outstanding contribution to the AAHA during many years of service as a volunteer. Montagna certainly fits the bill. He began volunteering at the local level in the 1980s as a team manager before serving as a club president. In 1997 he became the District registrar, taking over for the retiring Joan Schofield. He becomes the 15th District person to be inducted into the AAHA Hall of Fame since its inception in 2006. Tom Koester; USA Hockey Magazine Archives

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